tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post2726086845706432357..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: Email from a guy with a boyfriend who's not out at workGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-18521642066961800102010-09-04T18:02:56.343+01:002010-09-04T18:02:56.343+01:00This desire for "diversity" is a load of...This desire for "diversity" is a load of crap. I have noticed that in lots of businesses once one "comes out" and adds to the "diverse nature" of the staff, he can kiss any sort of professional advancement goodbye. The diverse employee will NOT move beyond the position he is in when the big announcement is made. <br /><br />My two cents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-85100551614810322022010-08-24T04:36:56.990+01:002010-08-24T04:36:56.990+01:00Everyone has to go through their own journey, in t...Everyone has to go through their own journey, in their own time and in their own way. (Isn't that how we felt before we came out?) No matter how you feel about someone else's being closeted, all they can do is come out when and to the degree and at the pace they are comfortable. No one wants to be rushed or forced out. The only thing you can do is decide whether and how long you can deal with it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-41921799685380959412010-08-20T22:39:22.300+01:002010-08-20T22:39:22.300+01:00What would have been so hard about X (the banker) ...What would have been so hard about X (the banker) simply staying put? The mere fact that he's at a deli with Y (your correspondent) doesn't necessarily mean that X is gay, or that they're dating. They could just be friends. <br /><br />My hunch is that there may be more to this than what X told Y. Could X possibly have more than a purely professional relationship with the "colleague"?John Williamsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-91379902477605729602010-08-19T10:12:46.881+01:002010-08-19T10:12:46.881+01:00If anyone's to blame it's society, not you...If anyone's to blame it's society, not your boyfriend. There have been times in my life (not recently, though!) where I've felt similar urges to deny my "real life" when the ramifications of revealing my sexuality in the workplace seemed huge. If anything I would rationalise it in terms of my work being *less* important than my home so I didn't have to be honest with colleagues. <br /><br />These days it's a non-issue for me, really. I don't wave a flag but I don't shy away from it. I certainly wouldn't deny my husband in public. I think it's just something that comes with time and being in the right situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com