tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post3079749327084164703..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: Email from a gay guy who wants a relationshipGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-2484381691521998702007-09-11T06:10:00.000+01:002007-09-11T06:10:00.000+01:00GB, Your writing is incredibly fluid, making it ea...GB, Your writing is incredibly fluid, making it easy to read 100% of your postings, plus there's nothing like being a voyer & living vicariously through your interesting adventures. <BR/>I come from a small town in NZ and now live in AK. I find the pool of talent in AK brillaint. My trouble is I fall in lust with boys at the drop of a hat, although I am in my second long term relationship of 4yrs.<BR/>Once I came to terms with being gay and the bigger city being made up of lateral thinkers; great guys came in abundance. I think travelling will help you see what "stock" is out there and help you to identify with where you fit in the community. From this you will gain the confidence & worldly views you need to step off and find out who you like and what you are like. Even if you only travel for a few weeks globally once a year, sample the world, and if you can try and share this with some one along the way. What I like about a relationship is, he is your best mate, with benefits and there is a journey along the wayUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10127220498955812816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-50544189150700422072007-08-26T21:47:00.000+01:002007-08-26T21:47:00.000+01:00Totally agree what GB said; Try and meet new guys,...Totally agree what GB said; Try and meet new guys, networking through friends or via the Internet, but don't be too selective will really help. I met all my 3 ex online.<BR/><BR/>Nobody perfect, He will be only perfect if you keep telling yourself he is the perfect one for you (if you want a perfect bf). so the problem is you. not the guy you be with.<BR/><BR/>Travels will be good thing to do when you feel there is no one can be your bf around you. but you have to be willing to move lol, is not easy to ask someone move to another country...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-90859442803315577122007-08-26T14:14:00.000+01:002007-08-26T14:14:00.000+01:00Now readers are using you comments section to hook...Now readers are using you comments section to hook up! Trust the fags to turn facebook and blog comments into gaydar.<BR/><BR/>Prceless.Sir Wobinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10329220412552005890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-27757570389556954552007-08-26T11:02:00.000+01:002007-08-26T11:02:00.000+01:00That's true. There's no such thing as the perfect ...That's true. There's no such thing as the perfect bf. For me it was impossible to be gay on my small island and hence my move to London. I feel his move to the UK should not primarily be about the search for a bf but to belong and be part of a truly global city. Let the love/bf part happen on it's own time.Humming Bird in Hydehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08680924058987036459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-39813025799843472122007-08-25T09:32:00.000+01:002007-08-25T09:32:00.000+01:00I'm highly flattered - I've been mentioned in GayB...I'm highly flattered - I've been mentioned in GayBanker's blog! I've finally made it in the blogging world! lol Thanks for the mention GB! I do agree with you in respect of your advice (naturally). Confidence is a great thing to have...but it does take time! Maybe going to the UK will do your reader some good - I found that my overseas travels last year were very good for me and my abilities to get out there! :-)Montyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01535444453211857308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-59123801254609919812007-08-25T09:22:00.000+01:002007-08-25T09:22:00.000+01:00haha...i agree with the reader that Auckland is a ...haha...i agree with the reader that Auckland is a very difficult place to find a relationship. I have profiles on dating sites, and most of the emails i send out do not receive replies- maybe i'm not hot enough, but I'm sure i don't look hideous either. <BR/><BR/>I do meet a few guys- they're very decent, but most would just want to fuck. But even this comes in rare frequency. You've gotta be a supermodel to get any attention here. I guess everyone is looking for the perfect one.<BR/><BR/>I did a post on 'self-appreciation' too. But even with that knowledge, its still kinda difficult. The reader is at a much better position- having gay friends, who can potentially introduce new friends. <BR/><BR/>I guess the reader has to know that he's not alone here in Auckland! In the mean time he could try nzdating.com, and fridae.com- these two sites tend to have a lot of traffic (i think). <BR/><BR/>But I guess its ok to have a bit of fun while on his way to finding the right person. In the gay world, you can't expect a relationship to start off like a straight one. I think he has a better chance if he's willing to play around- because most gay relationships start with some sex or fooling around (quote: http://gaybanker.blogspot.com/2007/07/do-all-gay-relationships-start-with-sex.html)<BR/><BR/>if he's really having a tough time, he can always drop me a line...lol!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com