tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post6774543800931007149..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: Email from a gay guy with flakey gay friendsGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-9096023883387534452010-06-27T22:28:45.399+01:002010-06-27T22:28:45.399+01:00OMG - I totally agree with you flakey gay men &quo...OMG - I totally agree with you flakey gay men "keeping their options open until Kingdom come". My friends (if I can even call them that anymore) asked me "whatsup" in the morning, then say "I'm game for dinner", and that "I'll give you a call for dinner", and then stops answering phones or text messages until 11pm when all of a sudden "I'm too tired". Sick of flakes. I know I'm in the minority, but seriously, I rather have no friends than so-called friends that take you for granted like that. I have to remind myself again and again, that I'm being treated that way cause "they're not really into me" (whether as a romantic partner or as a friend),The Cool Thesis Guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11906714751876087169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-53308097775383435802010-04-01T07:16:39.348+01:002010-04-01T07:16:39.348+01:00personally, reading this guy's letter was pret...personally, reading this guy's letter was pretty scary. maybe he should try putting himself in his friend's shoes and trying to imagine what it's like to be on the receiving end of various msgs bombarded from 3 different mediums (text, fb chat, fb msg) etc.. <br /><br />My suggestion - don't take it too personally, sometimes its a technical fault and the msg doesn't get through. Having said that, don't be a coward and MAKE A PHONE CALL. I realized the reader didn't make an effort to make a call at all. Texts/emails can be too impersonal and ineffective sometimes.roobshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11581419419019917101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-77466609278803996532010-03-28T03:57:25.234+01:002010-03-28T03:57:25.234+01:00Personally I'm the awful type-a who is ridicul...Personally I'm the awful type-a who is ridiculous when it comes to these situations. I tend to drive people away.somethingeverydayhttp://somethingeveryday.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-9534104066641762232010-03-26T00:20:49.350+00:002010-03-26T00:20:49.350+00:00Interesting. As a recently-out type-A guy, I actua...Interesting. As a recently-out type-A guy, I actually am wondering about the same thing. I'm looking for two things:<br />1. gay friends<br />2. a boyfriend<br /><br />I'm not yet sure how to separate the search for these two things (or if I need to at all). I have precious few single gay friends around the US. In town, I have single gay "acquaintances" at best.<br /><br />I get the feeling that I'm doing the same thing that this reader's doing. Hrm. tit for tat...Gauss Jordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13781308532984102753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-28428134923280398572010-03-20T11:11:25.708+00:002010-03-20T11:11:25.708+00:00GB, it's unfair to call your reader "unco...GB, it's unfair to call your reader "uncool". He is "reliable" and still getting used to the fact that some guys are not upfront about what they want or don't want (and probably themselves don't really know either).<br /><br />To your reader: do not take W's or V's reactions to you personally. There's nothing wrong with wanting people to be straight with you (even when they are gay, hahahah). To me, W lacked integrity and V was plain rude. But it's all about perspective. Maybe to them, that's the "normal" way to behave towards other guys and they see nothing wrong with their behaviour. Maybe to them, you ARE needy.<br /><br />The question is, if you know yourself that you are really not 'desperate', are you going to change your natural behaviour just to please people who might misinterpret you as 'desperate'? Just forget about them and keep being yourself and enjoy trying to meet other new people until you find people who have more similar values to yours and won't treat you the way they did. You don't have to "play cool", just be yourself.<br /><br />By the way, people HAVE said to me "hey dude I am not interested in you, but let's just hang out" and sometimes it has not worked out but sometimes it has (as friendship). Everything is possible.<br /><br />Good luck and have fun<br />Adil xUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17024242321827212681noreply@blogger.com