tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post7376714512202889666..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: Living dangerouslyGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-11055393131018523312009-02-22T20:51:00.000+00:002009-02-22T20:51:00.000+00:00Hey GB,Loving the blog, as always.I think it's gre...Hey GB,<BR/><BR/>Loving the blog, as always.<BR/><BR/>I think it's great that you've brought up the 'sleeping arrangements' right off the bat. I try to do this myself, as it helps clear up any potential confusion regarding one's intentions. ;-)<BR/><BR/>Have fun in Paris!<BR/><BR/>Cheers,<BR/>~MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-9353118274897155882009-02-18T06:52:00.000+00:002009-02-18T06:52:00.000+00:00Hopping on a train from London to Paris sounds fun...Hopping on a train from London to Paris sounds fun.<BR/><BR/>However, try flying 10,461 km (6,538 mi) to Washington from Bishkek at the age of 19 to meet someone you met online.<BR/><BR/>That is exactly what I did when I was 19 (long time ago) and he turned out to be the Love of my life, although we parted since and live on different continents.<BR/><BR/>Good luck!ΖΩΗ (Life | Жизнь)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03050075008825749672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-12426622773912944802009-02-18T02:59:00.000+00:002009-02-18T02:59:00.000+00:00Amusing yet silly example of renvoiAmusing yet silly example of renvoiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-51804697319279598892009-02-17T21:11:00.000+00:002009-02-17T21:11:00.000+00:00Thanks for your kind thoughts, first anonymous com...Thanks for your kind thoughts, first anonymous commenter (a.k.a. SX), whichever one of the recent guys who called themselves SX you are!<BR/><BR/>At the moment, <A HREF="http://www.blogger.com/profile/17893440682444547797" REL="nofollow">Gabriel</A>, it looks like we are going to end up meeting :-). And I reckon the cock-tease bit depends on what my expectations are!<BR/><BR/>I'd disagree with your gay neighbour too, <A HREF="http://www.blogger.com/profile/02970490152285414561" REL="nofollow">Kenski</A>, because I think I agree with you. These days both gay and straight couples have much more freedom to define the nature of their long-term relationships, and amongst the people I know I can think of non-standard examples that seem to work.<BR/><BR/>No need to be confused, second anonymous commenter, whoever you are. Just think about it in terms of what happens when I meet guys online from <A HREF="http://gaydar.co.uk" REL="nofollow">gaydar</A> or <A HREF="http://www.gay.com/" REL="nofollow">gay.com</A>. In those situations too, the decision about whether to meet them is also a decision about whether I might perhaps be prepared to share my bed with them. Although I've accelerated the decision about the bed sharing here, it's easier to do that when it's not my own house. Also, if it's clear when I meet the guy that my offer of bed sharing was a mistake, I'm sure I'd be able to find myself another hotel room somewhere in Paris. Anyway, needless to say I know much more about the guy that I put in this post!<BR/><BR/>I think you're probably right <A HREF="http://antonysimpson.com/" REL="nofollow">Antony</A>, but in any case I'm definitely looking forward to meeting him :-).<BR/><BR/>GB xxxGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-69167916649033724092009-02-17T18:03:00.000+00:002009-02-17T18:03:00.000+00:00he sounds like a character! :PAntony xhe sounds like a character! :P<BR/><BR/>Antony xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-80857334444013198972009-02-17T11:35:00.000+00:002009-02-17T11:35:00.000+00:00I'm confused by this too. One minute you are delib...I'm confused by this too. One minute you are deliberating whether or not to even meet the guy, the next thing we know, you are meeting in Paris and asking him to share your bed! I found this a bit of a nonsense really!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-21179867491173447642009-02-16T11:53:00.000+00:002009-02-16T11:53:00.000+00:00"In some sense, you were a living evidence that ga..."In some sense, you were a living evidence that gay people can also lead an emotionally stable life as a straight couple"<BR/><BR/>I found this sentence quite funny. These days, particularly in Western relationships, both straight and gay, I actually think that the progress we've made towards equality (all kinds) has led to a breakdown in traditional roles and expectations. <BR/><BR/>Whilst, on balance, progress is a good thing for both individuals and groups, it does lead to a challenge when establishing a relationship. Without ground-rules you have to figure out this stuff for yourself. <BR/><BR/>I think it's made straight relationships increasingly challenging and I'd risk saying that the dynamic within straight couples has become increasingly similar to what gay couples have had to deal with over the years.<BR/><BR/>I've had many cocktail fuelled debates with one of my (gay) neighbours who's convinced that the only way for ANY relationship to work is for one partner to be 'the man' and one partner to be 'the woman'.<BR/><BR/>Personally, I think that's cr*p. Roles within a relationship can (and should) change depending on circumstance and necessity.<BR/><BR/>There *are* stable gay relationships out there but for a variety of reasons they tend not to be as visible as 'stable' straight relationships, which seem to be everywhere. <BR/><BR/>My hope is that with Civil Partnership legislation two things will happen. First off, couples will put more effort into solving their problems before resorting to separation and secondly that 'stable' gay couples will become more visible.<BR/><BR/>You should probably know, though, that even the most emotionally stable relationship is going to have ups and downs. Often, though, the hard parts are hidden behind the 'public face' of a relationship so nobody knows what's really going on between a couple except for themselves.Ken Skinnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02970490152285414561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-86499388339875711052009-02-16T09:43:00.000+00:002009-02-16T09:43:00.000+00:00asian boys are such cockteasers. LOL.......asian boys are such cockteasers. LOL.......Gabrielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17893440682444547797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-29990836591643354772009-02-16T09:30:00.000+00:002009-02-16T09:30:00.000+00:00Dear Gb, I had many words of wisdom and questions ...Dear Gb, I had many words of wisdom and questions around this post, but now i feel like saying..what a lovely meeting it will be..so go for it.<BR/>I still can't fully understand the philosophy around blogging and keeping it secret, especially from close friends and partners but this seems to be the case for most. I would love my boyfriend to tell me about his blog but alas this i fear will never happen..perhaps he doesn't trust me with his thoughts????? <BR/>But back to you....being away is always lovely and meeting new people is as well...even if they know you more than normal!!!! but isn't it safer this way as at least people know about it and you know somethings about them as well...blind dates are the dodgey ones....<BR/>So have fun and obviously i look forward to hearing a few snippets about it<BR/><BR/>take care<BR/>SXAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-88486492197293793002009-02-16T06:52:00.000+00:002009-02-16T06:52:00.000+00:00Thanks Rebel, indeed it's always nice to visit Par...Thanks <A HREF="http://www.blogger.com/profile/06303611834341752743" REL="nofollow">Rebel</A>, indeed it's always nice to visit Paris :-).<BR/><BR/>I'm sure you know, ajw_5025, that on the Internet you can never be sure who anyone is. So the "independent confirmation" that I found was an important part of becoming comfortable with this whole scenario. I'd say that my behaviour here is just a sensible precaution, and is very specific to this particular situation. I didn't mention it in this posting, but as soon as I found those old web pages I sent him an email asking him about them, so he knew all about it before I posted it here.<BR/><BR/>GB xxxGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-66685079690813351182009-02-15T23:48:00.000+00:002009-02-15T23:48:00.000+00:00Without wishing to criticize you, I found your ref...Without wishing to criticize you, I found your reference to "independent confirmation" a little cold and clinical as an approach to a relationship. Would you say your precautions come from the fact you want to protect your blog identity or is it something which croses over into you every day life?<BR/><BR/>I think I can be this way at times, cynical I guess is the best word for it, kinda bums me out though to think I'm like that and I haven't even made if out of my teens yet!<BR/><BR/>Keep writing though, I look forward to your updates. I have an industrial placement with a bank in the city for 14months starting in June, and your blog has given a lot of helpful stuff for me to think about :D xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-53479266126045502132009-02-15T21:05:00.000+00:002009-02-15T21:05:00.000+00:00niiiice...hope u have a great time...paris anyways...niiiice...<BR/>hope u have a great time...paris anyways is awesome...sex or no sex...m sure its gonna be great :)Jiggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06303611834341752743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-6859997340613655222009-02-15T20:11:00.000+00:002009-02-15T20:11:00.000+00:00Indeed Superchilled, I felt this was becoming too ...Indeed <A HREF="http://www.blogger.com/profile/00480825797997399121" REL="nofollow">Superchilled</A>, I felt this was becoming too much fun as well, which is why I had just to blog it and let everyone know!<BR/><BR/>Sorry <A HREF="http://silverrrcloud.wordpress.com/" REL="nofollow">SilverRRCloud</A>, I don't understand what you mean when you say "... is now msg. the various scenarios". In any case, surely the existing policy is sufficient? The guy that I'm hoping to meet in Paris is now an established blogger, and all <A HREF="http://gaybanker.blogspot.com/2008/09/offline-meetings-with-people-who-know.html" REL="nofollow">the policy</A> says is that I don't meet readers although I make exceptions "<EM>... for established bloggers, when I've built up some kind of rapport with them over a period of time</EM>" :-). Anyway, thanks for your kind wishes, I will try and have fun!<BR/><BR/>GB xxxGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-16287591323240344712009-02-15T19:24:00.000+00:002009-02-15T19:24:00.000+00:00Look, GB, I do think that we need a policy on this...Look, GB, I do think that we need a policy on this.<BR/><BR/>If a guy wants to share the same bed with you and is now msg. the various scenarios, we all are getting somewhat confused and slightly disoriented. Obviously, a new policy statement may be a great help here. (Have fun, no matter what...)<BR/><BR/>SCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-18809401362305394072009-02-15T14:32:00.000+00:002009-02-15T14:32:00.000+00:00Ah this is too much fun. And now we have a seriali...Ah this is too much fun. <BR/>And now we have a serialised story... can't wait for the next edition.Superchilledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00480825797997399121noreply@blogger.com