tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post7618598855125481680..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: A wobbleGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-35644437357444346992013-10-27T16:17:55.142+00:002013-10-27T16:17:55.142+00:00How do you know if you've fallen in love with ...How do you know if you've fallen in love with someone?<br /><br />I never "fell" in love, the relationship grew and flourished until cancer got in the way. I know I loved him, he married me a week before he died, so I must be one of the swiftest Civil partnership widowers about.<br /><br />There's no need to express sorrow or condolences, it's over 9 months now, and I am putting my life back together in some shape or form. I miss the old bastard and don't at the same time. That's love. Now he isn't around any more, I am finding out how much he became a part of me.<br /><br />GB, I have no idea if I will ever bump into you in the City as I am a mere back office cog in the wheel, but you keep in there. I seem to have found more friends since he died than I realised I had. The City isn't as homophobic as I thought, or has my company employed more enlightened individuals?<br /><br />Tim The Nomadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15558601656189152593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-89335160417462550372013-10-18T13:51:28.445+01:002013-10-18T13:51:28.445+01:00LOL yonderbluemoon :-). Actually, I had noticed t...LOL yonderbluemoon :-). Actually, I had noticed that I've been behaving like a teenager, although I was too ashamed to include that thought in this post! Anyway, thanks for reminding me that professionals like doctors etc don't handle their own cases, hopefully I can rely on my readers here to help me handle mine :-).<br /><br />GB xxx<br /><br />PS: Thanks Kenski, indeed we are gradually learning *how* to communicate with each other.GBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-11761186215548879632013-10-18T13:34:31.205+01:002013-10-18T13:34:31.205+01:00GB, if you are worried about the effects of ageing...GB, if you are worried about the effects of ageing, don't be. You really can behave like a teenager! Sometimes it is cute like checking someone's FB updates and sometimes it can be a bit strange like showing someone your sex blog, talking about relative wealth and then insinuating mental disorder in the space of hours whilst either drunk or hung over. Good effort! It is not that you should not talk about such things but (as you have realised) timing is everything. <br /><br />However there is no need to feel unduly worried. There is a reason why lawyers don't do their own cases, doctors consult other doctors and accountants get others to do their tax returns. If all these highly qualified people lack objectivity at times, then I think we can give agony uncles a break too:)yonderbluemoonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-60946896803677236002013-10-15T16:19:48.704+01:002013-10-15T16:19:48.704+01:00Hey GB, I think you've highlighted the addendu...Hey GB, I think you've highlighted the addendum to "communication is key", which is that when you start in on a relationship with a new partner you need to learn specifically how to communicate with them. Everyone is different and will respond differently to how subjects are broached... Plus, you reminded me of that phase in a relationship where it seems so fragile that the slightest misstep could break it! Ken Skinnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02970490152285414561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-74159055546251658802013-10-14T14:01:11.914+01:002013-10-14T14:01:11.914+01:00In terms of K, I think you may be right Sebastian,...In terms of K, I think you may be right <a href="https://plus.google.com/117572792324833740819" rel="nofollow">Sebastian</a>, LOL! I can't remember the last time I felt like this about a guy. I'm just going to enjoy the feeling while it lasts!<br /><br />Anyway, hope all OK with you? You never responded to the last email that I sent you in September.<br /><br />GB xxxGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-16859630343496057262013-10-14T03:00:09.227+01:002013-10-14T03:00:09.227+01:00Haha.You are obsessed like I do!Haha.You are obsessed like I do!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02191528206902892963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-7731793657312984512013-10-13T17:28:56.769+01:002013-10-13T17:28:56.769+01:00Maybe you're right, P, perhaps things need to ...Maybe you're right, P, perhaps things need to get a bit further before I use the word 'love'. Although in fact I think that K has been far more sensible and constant than I have, especially in light of the fact that I caused this wobble!<br /><br />Good questions, William. Firstly, I am definitely completely out of love with ex-boyfriend T. He's still out of the country, but we exchanged a couple of emails recently. I could tell from his response that he was surprised at how cold my initial reply was, but I wasn't doing it on purpose, that's was just the way I naturally felt. In terms of moving on quickly, I think I blogged that for me, meeting lots of guys for drinks and/or <i>activities</i> and/or sleepovers really has helped me put the whole sorry episode of my relationship with ex-boyfriend T behind me. It feels like a very distant memory. In terms of infatuation with K, when I first met him I was still boyfriends with ex-boyfriend T. Because I still had a boyfriend at that point I think I was quite objective, but nonetheless I can remember feeling very attracted to K. I can also remember thinking that even if I didn't have a boyfriend, it was quite unlikely that he'd ever be interested in me, but it just goes to show how wrong one can be!<br /><br />GB xxxGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-864514459427973682013-10-13T16:30:36.110+01:002013-10-13T16:30:36.110+01:00Hey GB,
I'm glad things are going well for yo...Hey GB,<br /><br />I'm glad things are going well for you. If you're now in love with K, does it mean you've fallen completely out of love with ex-boyfriend T? You guys have been together for a pretty long time; is it possible to move on so quickly within such a short period of time?<br /><br />It might not be lust, but can you be absolutely certain it's not infatuation? The rest of your life is a pretty long time. :)Wiliamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-58867231301882506732013-10-13T16:11:46.337+01:002013-10-13T16:11:46.337+01:00I do think you have been silly talking about the s...I do think you have been silly talking about the situation while drunk, but I do understand why you did it as I have had the wrong conversation while drunk too. Maybe sometimes too often! :)<br /><br />GB I would advise maybe taking it slow and maybe sleeping with him before conferring the label 'love' to him. K seems to come across hot and cold in my opinion to you, maybe having 'the talk' will help you establish exactly where you both stand.<br /><br />PPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-85761281420800206262013-10-13T10:08:29.356+01:002013-10-13T10:08:29.356+01:00Good question, recent anonymous commenter (whoever...Good question, recent anonymous commenter (whoever you are), but I think it's an easy one. With K, I really really want to spend the rest of my life with him. Lust is just a very strong desire for various intiamte <em>activities</em>!<br /><br />GB xxxGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-41434022172414725042013-10-13T10:03:48.720+01:002013-10-13T10:03:48.720+01:00What differentiates between love and lust? What differentiates between love and lust? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-31214544859097845162013-10-13T09:24:32.721+01:002013-10-13T09:24:32.721+01:00Love is probably different for everyone, Sebastian...Love is probably different for everyone, Sebastian. But for me, I can't stop thinking about K, hoping that he's OK, when we're apart wishing that we were together, looking forward to cuddling him and getting a lot more *intimate* with him one day :-), looking at his facebook page all the time in case he's posted an update or liked something, and all these feelings are so intense that they almost hurt! Might you be in love with anyone?<br /><br />GB xxx <br />GBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-62947218357243555702013-10-13T07:39:38.645+01:002013-10-13T07:39:38.645+01:00How do you know if you've fallen in love with ...How do you know if you've fallen in love with someone?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02191528206902892963noreply@blogger.com