tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post7730583375777813003..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: A reader who accidently outed himself to a friendGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-67415458918836326622007-05-09T19:38:00.000+01:002007-05-09T19:38:00.000+01:00hmmmm... i think ivfelt abt coming out to only two...hmmmm... i think ivfelt abt coming out to only two ppl in my life... the rest were, happily, a breeze. :) despite the preceding drama! :) i guess, this fellow will soon realize dat, too. :):):)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-7204955398321373392007-05-09T09:56:00.000+01:002007-05-09T09:56:00.000+01:00The reader is having a strong reaction to being ou...The reader is having a strong reaction to being out of control. He felt that he could control people's knowledge of him perfectly and having that bubble burst isn't fun. We often put on some act all the time to try to set people's perceptions of us, about how gay or straight we are, how smart an capable we are etc.<BR/><BR/>It's a pretty manipulative way of approaching interpersonal relationships. It's exhausting to keep it up most of the time and hides who you really are from people you call your friends.<BR/><BR/>First thing that stands out is that the reader's friend doesn't mind. He didn't need to hide this from her in the first place. If the friend E does freak out, then they're a friend not worth having. For all the reader knows, E is also putting up facade and now E's gob-smacked that his crush bats for the same team. The point is that the reader does not know how E feels about religion or a range of other issues. Much of the reader's fear comes from not knowing.<BR/><BR/>Like GB said, we all felt that way after coming out. In time you'll know more about people and won't have to fear them the way you do now. The truth is that most people don't care since they have issues of their own to deal with. Folks who make a big deal of it are probably keen to deflect attention away from themselves.<BR/><BR/>Well done on taking the first step (however accidentally.)Sir Wobinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10329220412552005890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-34770053152632695772007-05-09T07:09:00.000+01:002007-05-09T07:09:00.000+01:00Yes! I agree with you. There are so many upset th...Yes! I agree with you. There are so many upset things around you. The best way which one friends on EbonyFriends.com told me is that do not pay more attention to the bad things but think more about the happy things, then your life will be easier.Danielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10144506596045013843noreply@blogger.com