tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post8357150346887341018..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: Email from a guy who's worried about his sexual historyGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-31941605975783882010-10-19T14:14:42.226+01:002010-10-19T14:14:42.226+01:00Something Andy said at the end caught my attention...Something Andy said at the end caught my attention particularly -- that his BF's sexual experience was kind of a turn-on. <br /><br />I'm very careful and always safe in my encounters, and there are a goodly number thereof, but when approaching sex with another man it is very stimulus to know he's been around the block (or several blocks), knows what he's doing and is most likely going to be highly skilled and uninhibited. All that comes with experience.<br /><br />My husband once described his pre-me life as "serial monogamy". Then the stories gradually began to trickle out of all his between-relationship experiences and times when he and his "serially monogamous" boyfriends had shared a third or a couple. I loved his stories (and shared many of mine) -- he's "a real man" of the best possible kind.Willhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14279473113628377106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-36334564722721273352010-09-25T12:11:04.580+01:002010-09-25T12:11:04.580+01:00I agree with the comments....honesty is what every...I agree with the comments....honesty is what everyone ultimately wants in a relationship- if that's not there then the relationship is doomed from the start. I recently came out and am not sexually experienced (@25) whereas my boyfriend has had a lot of experience (lol) and it kind of turns me on (lol). It doesn't bother me as he was 100% honest and forward in sharing it with me when it came up. The person is either going to accept you for who you are or not- all one can do at the end of the day is be honest in who they are and what they say. I think people that put on a mask eventually come unstuck.Andynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-91976745040475462682010-09-22T00:15:09.792+01:002010-09-22T00:15:09.792+01:00Read La Dame Aux Camelias by Alexandre Dumas, fils...Read La Dame Aux Camelias by Alexandre Dumas, fils. It's a story in which he can (kind of)relate and at the same time boost his self-esteem and believe tthat there is someone out there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-67703454253478752602010-09-21T13:47:03.153+01:002010-09-21T13:47:03.153+01:00The only important thing is that he learned someth...The only important thing is that he learned something about the experience. But I also had the same response - only 18?yoshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00081974018229308110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-53693911845875982242010-09-21T11:12:05.722+01:002010-09-21T11:12:05.722+01:00As a side point, it's post-Victorian str8-cent...As a side point, it's post-Victorian str8-centric society, particulary in the HIV era, that projects the idea that having sex with multiple partners (when single!) is somehow wrong. It's not. It's a natural human urge.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-68092018743532595382010-09-21T11:08:41.051+01:002010-09-21T11:08:41.051+01:00Two things: first, one of the primary requirements...Two things: first, one of the primary requirements for relationships is honesty. Irrespective of how you feel about it, you owe it to future bfs to be truthful. If a potential bf isn't able to accept you the way you are and the way you have been, that's their loss. Everybody has a history.<br /><br />Secondly, at 23, 18 shags may seem like a lot. It isn't! It sounds like a pretty healthy number.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-59471445312803288912010-09-21T09:59:34.509+01:002010-09-21T09:59:34.509+01:00I agree with you. There is nothing to worry about....I agree with you. There is nothing to worry about. I think that as a young person being a bit promiscuous is expected or even beneficial. The experience gained is very important. As the reader mentioned, he now knows what he wants and needs and will be able to put all these things behind.<br />I did the same thing. When I first came to London (a gay paradise in comparison to where I was before), I was like a child in a new toy store. I believe that everybody has to go through a stage like that to gain some perspective of what is around you.Nik_TheGreekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00986723570093229435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-4842745316395506182010-09-21T08:18:45.944+01:002010-09-21T08:18:45.944+01:00Thanks Anonymous, I've corrected my spelling m...Thanks Anonymous, I've corrected my spelling mistake now! GB xxxGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-29030041017204032562010-09-21T08:16:12.963+01:002010-09-21T08:16:12.963+01:00Sowing not sewing.Sowing not sewing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com