Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Gay dating and cruising web sites

I am amazed by how many gay dating and cruising web sites that there are these days. As far as I know gay.com was the first, because I can remember using it in the mid to late 1990's. I then started using gaydar, and more recently fridae, but I am now aware of many more. On top of the dating/cruising web sites, there are all the gay porn web sites too of course, and there are hundreds if not thousands of those. How come they can all thrive?

I've compiled a list of the sites that I am aware of. Apart from the three mentioned above, and in no particular order, there's:

  • gayone.com: In its own words,
    GayOne.com is an umbrella site with many different domains. As a member of GayOne.com you are also able to view profiles and send messages to members of many other sites that are all part of the World of GayOne.com. One membership, many opportunities!
    I originally founds this at the chariots.gayone.com site, but I'm also aware of a few other domains such as ku-bar.gayone.com, fist.gayone.com, qx.gayone.com, wildfruit.gayone.com, queernation.gayone.com, gayscotland.gayone.com, manzone.gayone.com, salvation.gayone.com, and no doubt there are others. At one point a year or so ago they tried to start charging for their services, but within a month they'd sent out an e-mail reversing that decision. In the past I've exchanged a few messages with guys on this site but nothing ever came to anything. When I last looked, there were over 23,000 registered users in the UK.

  • outeverywhere.com: This site seems to focus more on friendships and relationships rather than cruising. One of my old friends found their partner on that web site so I know it's got a significant user base.

  • fitlads.net: This site advertises itself as "A place for SCALLY LADS and their admirers". Out of curiosity I signed up last year and received my registration email from Joe and David with the e-mail address horny@fitlads.net. But before I'd even tried to contact anyone, someone rated me at only 1/10. Ah well, I don't pretend to be a scally lad! Their web site now claims to have the profiles of over 127,000 lads.

  • ohlalaguys.com: This site claims to offer "gay dating, gay chat, gay travel, gay accommodation & gay work". A guy I was chatting to on gaydar a few months ago pointed me to this web site to see his face pics. Apart from that, I don't really know anything about it, but it looks comprehensive.

  • cruisingforsex.com: As far as I'm aware, this is the original web site that first tried to list all the cruising areas and sex clubs worldwide. Given that it now boasts 10 years online, that's probably true. I've mentioned this site before when writing about how to find fun in London, and I've always thought that it's worth checking this site out when planning trips away. The site now has chat facilities, a message board, personals, and lots of porn links too, although I've never used any of these features.

  • squirt.org: This site advertises itself as "your neighborhood cruising guide". Why can't Americans spell neighbourhood correctly? Anyway, it looks quite good for listing cruisy bars, saunas, sex clubs and so on. It's also got message boards, and an online messaging system, so it's similar to cruisingforsex.com. Messages from the administrator arrive from dickhunter@squirt.org.

  • manjam.com: One of my readers told me about this site recently. It advertises "a unique social network for dating work and travel", and seems to have a big user base.

  • ladslads.com: I got an invite to sign up to this web site recently at an e-mail address I hardly ever use so I'm not sure about this site. It advertises itself as "the most advanced gay community available today, enabling you to interact with people from afar or on your doorstep". It currently offers Free Video Profiles, Free Distance Searches, Free Unlimited Messages, so it sounds like it's in startup mode because its offering all its services for free.

  • gaynatter: This web site contacted me for a reciprocal link when it was starting out, but subsequently has evolved into another dating/cruising web site. I don't know how many users they have.

Where did all these sites come from? I'd have thought that entering this business after other web sites have established themselves would be very difficult, because everyone wants a big user base to date or cruise, so it shouldn't make sense to waste time on a new site without many users. Anyway, if anyone has any views on any of these sites I'd be very interested to hear.

31 comments:

bobby's body said...

Hey matey,

You forgot about manhunt.net too. Yet another one. And when I was in South Africa guys used to use gmen.co.za.

I reckon gaydar is the best and I reckon squirt.org is just a very enlightening read (Hampstead Heath, who'd have thought!?).

Reluctant Nomad said...

Interesting you should mention squirt as I was there a month or so ago looking for glory holes in Nottingham for a friend of mine who is obsessed with them but has no internet access. I didn't find mention of any but discovered 'Fuck Alley' which is 5 min walk from here. I was mildly interested but not enough to visit as its not really my thing. However, a few weeks later, I was sitting on a bench near the spot at 3am chatting to a friend. And, to cut a long story short, I landed taking someone home. He'd been crusing fuck alley. He was delicious and he had my surname - a first for me! :-)

Bobby - while you mention that S African site, I find that most men use gaydar there. Like here, gay.com lost its popularity at a time when gay.com was going through teething problems and everyone migrated to gaydar. Interestingly, gaydar was started by two S African gay guys in London. I imagine they're laughing all the way to the bank these days.

silent_songster said...

I think ohlalaguys is really just another interface for manjam.

Gaydar is hardly used at all in this part of Canada.

You left out guys4men.com which has lots of (cute) filipinos in the x-rated video chat area. There is also dudesnude which is a sibling to guys4men. Great pics and free viewing.

ANotehr is gayromeo.com which seems to be the primary site for Germnay and Central europe.

Now isn't that almost an ambarassing list to admit knowing!

cuteCTguy said...

Some Aussie mates use Gumtree.com for fuck sessions.. there is a gay sub-section...

Z said...

Seems like most guys in the states are addicted to Manhunt these days.

libertine di homo said...

i concur with z said. almost all of the guys stateside use manhunt for the sex-hookup.

gay.com is always filled with guys who dither or 'negotiate' for hours on end. quite annoying when you are looking for someone just to blow a load with.

of course, manhunt can be the same way at times - but the direct-to-sex speed is much faster...

Gay banker said...

Oh dear! None of this information is going to help cure me of my addiction LOL!

GB xx

Gay banker said...

I had a comment by e-mail from Bill Cameron who was having trouble posting comments here, no doubt because of the new beta blogger system that I've switched to. His comment was as follows:

"You seem to have most of the angles covered ;) , but one site you didn't mention is Caffmos; it's for younger guys interested in older and vice versa. I believe it is UK-based although there are lots of users world-wide. Link is: http://www.caffmoscommunity.com/caffmos.asp."

Anonymous said...

My younger (22) boyfriend found me on FaceParty so I would recommend that site, especially if (like me) you are slightly older.

Since we got together I closed all my dating site accounts (Gaydar, Out, etc) but still get invites from the guys I was chatting to asking me to link up with them on Bebo, hi5, Zorpia and others).

As I am using the new beta blog I have to send this ananymously but you can check me out at http://mad-about-the-boy.blogspot.com/

Anonymous said...

Apologies for the atrocious spelling.....

Wyndham

http://mad-about-the-boy.blogspot.com/

Moncrief Speaks said...

Mahunt is definitely the stateside hook-up site du jour.

Anonymous said...

Lots I never heard of, lol! Living in Ldn, Gaydar is enough for me. But I also know of BNskin (rather hard), and New Boy Nudes (pretty addictive, with a constant flow of new pix).

Bob

Anonymous said...

Manjam.com is a really cool site - some of the best looking guys online, some have video clips too

Anonymous said...

There is also the Jake website www.jaketm.org - which is a meeting place for professional men - but it seems small. and clique-y.
That said, I still don't know of the best website for bright, ungeeky professional, 30 something men - who want to meet like minds and bodies without resorting to hailing people with "m8", or "imao". I am a journalist (told handsome) who is not particularly fulfilled bythe gay bar/club scene. What do you suggest?

Gay banker said...

Well anonymous journalist, I don't think my view has changed since I wrote this posting. In spite of it's global sounding name, I believe that outeverywhere.com is mainly UK based, having originally been called 'out in the uk'. Given that a very non-scene friend of mine found his partner there, I think it would be a good place to start :-)

GB xxx

Anonymous said...

Looks like a new one is brewing
http://cruisingformen.net

Anonymous said...

anonymous journalist here GB. Many thanks. Oh that I'll find people like you on that site:-)xxx

Donald said...

Did anyone mention the main hookup site for Southern California? Adam4Adam.com

Colinsito said...

Hola from Costa Rica. I am the co-founder of Squirt.org

Thanks so much for reviewing and mentioning our site.

Cheers, Colin.

Anonymous said...

has someone met goerge michael in hampstead or other woods?

Anonymous said...

You also left out ClubSilver.ORG, which is an international site, based in the USA, and caters to older men (silver foxes) and admirers and is geared toward relationships.

Anonymous said...

Squirt.org, at least in western Canada has to be the worst. The site is not moderated very well, the comments on the bathhouses seem very one sided and most don't use it to hook up, rather to bitch and whine about everything. But then again that is pretty much the state of Vancouver these days. lol
Big dreamers, just don't want to have to do anything to attain anything. lol

kevingerarrd said...

Hiya guys;

Just a thought. Gaydar works in places where people are open to being connected with.
I was taught as a child to smile at old ladies. When I asked (in my 40's) Why? I was told: Old ladies and gentlemen don't get smiled at enough. When you become older you become invisable.
Try this: Smile when you enter a room. It sets people at ease. Then see what trouble you can cause...........

Kg

MuchMore said...

ManHunt.net is the most popular around me although it is more of a sex site and not a dating site

JustJohn said...

Another fantastic website for fetish guys is www.Recon.com which gears towards s/m, bondage,feet and much more.

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