tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post1740204501549401741..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: Email from a gay guy with a relationship problemGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-58724083196449830762013-08-25T21:07:40.221+01:002013-08-25T21:07:40.221+01:00So, I'm what you call a low-down dirty cheatin...So, I'm what you call a low-down dirty cheatin' dog. My partner and I have talked about being in an open relationship in an off-hand non-specific way and it won't work. He has some insecurity issues and is jealous by nature, so I have decided to basically cheat. But I have no intention of leaving him and the relationships I have outside the relationship do get intimate, but never to the point of exclusivity. In other words, I encourage them to play around and even date... And usually them recounting a hookup acts as foreplay. The reason I say all this? I don't think that having a discussion about sex and open relationships have not be grave, sit-down-and-talk-in-low-tones affairs. It can be just general banter and discussions. Secondly, I find it odd that he's worried that the other guy will find someone else. If the sex and chemistry is good, he'll come back. And even better because he'll know more of what he likes and what he doesn't having had more experience. And even if he doesn't want a sexual relationship anymore, you still a good buddy to talk to about sex... And giggle and snicker in a corner gossiping like school girls. As for me, I wish I could say that it's just that my partner and I don't have sex. In fact, we still play at lot and the sex is really good. I just want more variety. One thing we did to kick our sex lives back up was to explore more together, recreating that sense of discovery as with new lovers. We ended up doing more role-playing and filming our adventures to kinda kick things up a notch and make it less routine.Brucehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06670970539093987978noreply@blogger.com