tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post3546410467820172320..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: Comment from a guy who's terrified of being gay GBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-37843748968683394592012-11-28T00:48:23.011+00:002012-11-28T00:48:23.011+00:00I always try to think about the person on the othe...I always try to think about the person on the other side, specially on this type of scenario where someone expresses so much love for the people around him, and I usually come to the same realization: They probably love you just as much as you love them. GB's story it's a wonderful example because it shows that even though he was worried about what his mother would say, he just found a person who loved him. <br />I'd say don't be afraid. All that people you love so much probably want you to be happy as well.Kouyanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-55636666314816658432012-11-27T13:46:54.490+00:002012-11-27T13:46:54.490+00:00Part of coming out is going through the process of...Part of coming out is going through the process of rejecting much of the stuff you've been indoctrinated with and coming to the realisation that what determines whether someone is good or bad is not what they are but who they are. <br /><br />I went through a long period of assuming I was asexual as I was brought up to believe that men should be attracted to women and I wasn't. I tried having a girlfriend and whilst everything worked physically, I was not getting what I needed. <br /><br />After "experimentation" with another guy I realised what was missing and that I was gay, whether I wanted to be or not. That was something of a crisis point as overnight I'd gone from being "normal" to something to be hated and marginalised. <br /><br />What helped in the end was the realisation that from "before" to "after", nothing had changed. I was still the same person. I knew more about myself, but that was all. <br /><br />Everyone's circumstances are different so it's not really my place to say you have to do something or the other, but be honest with yourself and look forward 50 years and think about what will have given you a full and happy life. <br /><br />Personally, I didn't feel I had any choice but to come out to my parents as to keep it hidden would have been to be dishonest. In the long run I believe it has benefited our relationship and their understanding of me immeasurably. Ken Skinnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02970490152285414561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-37323028169017633582012-11-26T13:59:30.319+00:002012-11-26T13:59:30.319+00:00Wow GB, what a redeeming post. Really shows how mu...Wow GB, what a redeeming post. Really shows how much we underestimate humam empathy. The inherent need for a son not to let down his parents as well as the overiding love for ones offspring. NiceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com