tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post4715840547732644944..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: Email from a student in the north of EnglandGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-58712471754204051172008-03-19T16:15:00.000+00:002008-03-19T16:15:00.000+00:00If he's had no sexual experience with a man to thi...If he's had no sexual experience with a man to this point, putting himself out as a rent boy would seem to be a very ill-advised course of action. Clients are going to want assurance and a variety of sexual skills. He's going to need to be able to think on his feet and to recognize when things might be getting a bit dicey. I'm not sure how marketable a virgin is in this context.<BR/><BR/>The year off is a fairly popular idea here in the US; I understand that colleges and universities look upon it kindly. If your system in the UK supports an applicant contacting the admissions office to discuss the reasons for the rejection, and proposing goals and strategies for improving his chances after a year on his own, I would certainly recommend that. It happens here, and can be a great way to get on the university's radar as someone who's highly motivated to attend--a desirable potential student who's worth chatting up a bit.Willhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14279473113628377106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-22551679903106492382008-03-18T21:00:00.000+00:002008-03-18T21:00:00.000+00:00PS One additional thought, since it has been under...PS One additional thought, since it has been under 10 years since I applied to University, and that I presume Maths is still as terribly undersubscribed as ever, he might find that he can get a place at one of the London colleges through clearing provided he gets good grades. Exceptionally, I know a friend who got an offer to read Maths at Oxford that way, notwithstanding Oxford don't formally participate in clearing (though I would recommend against anywhere outside of London). I would ditch the gap year idea. Get to University and start working and accumulating wealth and therefore freedom to make choices sooner rather than later. When you are a successful City Banker you can always move jobs, get three months paid gardening leave and travel. Just my thoughts. Hope it works out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-78265396974812826592008-03-18T20:53:00.000+00:002008-03-18T20:53:00.000+00:00How about studying Maths at one of the London coll...How about studying Maths at one of the London colleges? King's, UCL or LSE? I think this guy needs to throw himself outside of his comfort zone. He should stop going for the easy option. London would be the perfect place for him to explore. Yes it might be expensive, but I'm sure he'll manage. Besides, he might give the escorting a proper go that way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-62845681060110356902008-03-17T21:02:00.000+00:002008-03-17T21:02:00.000+00:00Hi, I enjoy reading your site and I think your ad...Hi, I enjoy reading your site and I think your advice to this student is spot on. I think he is nervous about Uni and his sexuality and that a gap year may be exactly what he needs to broaden his horizons and help him to sort out how he feels about himself and of course his future. Your point about not falling for your straight friends is particularly important; I didn't have any such advice when I was 18 and wasted a long time lusting and trying to love the impossible before doing something about how I felt in terms of sexuality. Good luck to our student friend whatever he decides:-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com