tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post56415333298189936..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: Email from a young woman with boyfriend worriesGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-83659973320886732312007-07-06T20:15:00.000+01:002007-07-06T20:15:00.000+01:00The earlier responses made me think of this articl...The earlier responses made me think of this article, a sort of intro to lesbianism c/o The Dinah Project. Maybe there are others out there who'd like it<BR/>http://dinahproject.com/articles_view_details.asp?id=129<BR/>It could be useful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-55853108233536428712007-07-05T20:26:00.000+01:002007-07-05T20:26:00.000+01:00Hi, I'm the girl who sent the email above to GB an...Hi, I'm the girl who sent the email above to GB and would like to clarify a couple of things.<BR/><BR/>In order to avoid speculation, I can say with no doubt I am not gay, although I can understand why you may have thought that.<BR/><BR/>Also, I am a regular reader of blogs and came across GB's site by chance.<BR/><BR/>With regards to my situation, GB wisely sums it up: "this young woman might just be slightly shy, and perhaps never ended up being in a position to develop friendships with suitable boys when she was younger" and this line really 'hits the the nail on the head':"The fact is that she feels that she's got a terrible secret".<BR/><BR/>I guess I decided to tell a complete stranger (or rather, a few) about it so I'm already one step forward.<BR/><BR/>Thanks to everyone for your comments!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-83426352146068951612007-07-05T17:51:00.000+01:002007-07-05T17:51:00.000+01:00I totally agree with the previous post that she sh...I totally agree with the previous post that she should tell her friends and ask them to set her up with someone. I am sensing a confidence issue more than anything, just like GB pointed out. But I don't think any comparison should be drawn between her problems and the problems faced by young gay people. Today's world is after all somewhat homophobic. Gay people, specially the young, need to contend with a lot of social and family pressure. They have to worry about how will coming out affect them family wise, career wise ... This girl certainly does not have to worry about these things.<BR/><BR/>It is always difficult to take the first step, but nobody can do it for her. She will need to summon the courage somewhere somehow on her own. In today's image obsessed world, it will be very helpful to glam up. This might help her feel more attractive and wanted. I think some guys will find her situation a massive turn on. If she wants to take things slowly, maybe she should go for older guys, as they are more likely to 'behave' themselves. But it depends on the person really. There are definitely guys out there who are willing to take things slow (specially the better educated ones, e.g. doctors, academics...) I might be stereotyping here lol. Anyway, I think she should feel more relax about the whole thing and try out different people, while staying in her comfort zone.<BR/><BR/>RobAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-88120150591767303922007-07-05T14:44:00.000+01:002007-07-05T14:44:00.000+01:00Personally i don't think she is gay. I'm a straigh...Personally i don't think she is gay. I'm a straight female in my early 20's and i've know a few girls in the same situation. What i discovered was alot of my friends and indeed myself meet guys through being 'set up' i don't mean blind dates more like introducing guys they know to be single at parties etc. But if she's shy about not having a boyfriend she's probably not being open about wanting one and most people wouldn't even try to set you up if you were acting like you didn't need/want to be. I'd suggest telling some female friends, who know her well and would know what shes looking for. Hey if you're reading i wouldn't worry too much, you sound like a strong independent woman, and believe it or not there are alot of guys that would find that very refreshing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-45799246579847198802007-07-05T10:42:00.000+01:002007-07-05T10:42:00.000+01:00Did you ask her how she came across your website? ...Did you ask her how she came across your website? If she was researching gay issues then it might shed more light on the situation.<BR/><BR/>Not stereotyping girls here but I think that your blog appeals to many females with the saucy stories, uncle agony column and accounts of relationship politics so it does not necassarily mean she's gay.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com