tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post8596428287305710970..comments2024-01-08T00:18:57.750+00:00Comments on Gay Banker: An email about good old-fashioned romanceGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07046768019709916759noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-31790043913340958562010-09-15T19:47:02.419+01:002010-09-15T19:47:02.419+01:00My own dating outcomes improved about 10,000% when...My own dating outcomes improved about 10,000% when I decided to get over myself and learn to like guys who already seemed to like me.Eric Whitneyhttp://ericwhitneyescort.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-19162494092263136342010-09-14T16:38:38.930+01:002010-09-14T16:38:38.930+01:00Hubby and I started off as polar opposites. I thin...Hubby and I started off as polar opposites. I think that's what kept it interesting over the past decade. If anything, us taking on traits of the other has been the root cause of most problems. <br /><br />A matching points system might give you the start of a relationship and may smooth over initial bumps, but long-term I doubt it counts for much. <br /><br />Personally, I wouldn't advocate over-thinking relationships. Dive in, get your heart broken a few times, grow as a person and find your place in the world, either alone or with another person (or several).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-3492203441378097462010-09-14T14:43:08.500+01:002010-09-14T14:43:08.500+01:00For anything to last, I certainly think one has to...For anything to last, I certainly think one has to look beyond superficial criteria. Sure they can be important, it's much easier to get along with someone who has similar attributes to you, but one would be limiting his options unnecessarily. What happened to the saying 'love is blind'? =pgaymedichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02264842833212027295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-59323354629106901822010-09-14T06:56:10.865+01:002010-09-14T06:56:10.865+01:00I very much believe in the matching theory of attr...I very much believe in the matching theory of attraction I think it would be better to partner with someone your equal. From the practical point of view, things would much be easier to come by with someone that is essentially the same as you. Scientifically, they've came up with all sorts of data that show how men and women would marry someone from the same background i.e. socio-economic status, level of education, attractiveness scale, etc. <br />Then again there is another theory about how love could grow between 2 people in time. Witness the custom of arranged marriages, studies have shown that couples that had pre-arranged marriages were more likely to stay married than couples that initially were mutually attracted to each other. The study also shows that the pre-arranged couples would come to love each other through the course of the relationship. <br />What we can take from here is that there is hope. Even when one becomes desperate there still is a good chance that we might find happiness with someone you can respect and care for. We human beings are capable of feeling and giving love and if that is so love is natural for all of us.Jeremynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-9809972116660420152010-09-13T22:47:19.135+01:002010-09-13T22:47:19.135+01:00How about desperation as a factor ? Two people sim...How about desperation as a factor ? Two people simultaneously deciding that 'oh-fuck-it-you'll-do'.badabingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-36738910546939834562010-09-13T17:09:55.000+01:002010-09-13T17:09:55.000+01:00The Score Theory, even a very complex one, with a ...The Score Theory, even a very complex one, with a number of objectively selected parameters may eventually explain why two people start a relationship. <br /><br />The problem with all such static theories is that there is no way to explain why do people stay in such relationships even when the score approach does not work for them anymore.<br />Bluntly, you can play around with the figures but you still won't be able to predict the durability of the given arrangement. Thus, for practical reasons, the approach has a limited applicable worth. <br /><br />LTRs are more productively viewed as a set of complex agreements based on subjective perceptions. Many people will tell you that you "can do better" than your present BF. Yet, it is only up to you to estimate how realistic this really is. <br /><br />Numbers and scores can explain a number of things, but the phenomenon of attraction is simply too complex and too changing to be set in stone for all the practical purposes. <br /><br />SCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-59261275740985050742010-09-13T11:59:48.431+01:002010-09-13T11:59:48.431+01:00I'm only 21 years old and I'm losing hope ...I'm only 21 years old and I'm losing hope in monogamy.Daniel Jason Binkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07172273470386755731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10667700.post-67957088674408834302010-09-13T09:11:58.182+01:002010-09-13T09:11:58.182+01:00How old are you GB? Weren't you with ex-boyfr...How old are you GB? Weren't you with ex-boyfriend P for a while?<br /><br />-MichaelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com