Wednesday, July 26, 2006

How can I become a father?

I've always wanted to be a dad. But there's a bit of a problem. None of my boyfriends have the necessary equipment :-(

I like to think that I'd be a good father. I'm a very caring and loving guy. Hopefully that comes through in the some of the stories I post. And I think I've been a good uncle to my sister's children too.

I also think I'd be a good sperm donor. It can't be that easy to find guys like me who are intelligent, with a PhD in fact, and from a family with an excellent genetic profile as well. For example, to my knowledge no one in my family has died of cancer or heart disease. As a reasonably successful guy, travelling to donate wouldn't be a problem either.

Perhaps there are some relevant web sites somewhere? Anyway, if any readers can e-mail me some advice, or leave a comment, I'd be very grateful.

19 comments:

aBoyInMess said...

In QAF, the hunk fathered a baby
with the lesbian. What do you think of the idea?

Amopodex said...

You crack me up GB. You sound like a fine specimen of DNA but don't you think that any prospecive mother might just be a teeny bit worried by your habit (and mine too, come to that) of fucking men you don't know?

Gay banker said...

Trouble is aBoyInMess, I don't know any lesbians!

Well I don't know Amopodex, I guess the initial worry relates to potential infection, but that can be tested for. Beyond that, surely it's only a "like father, like son (or daughter)" issue?

GB x

cuteCTguy said...

Ahem GB dont think your lifestyle choice allows you the time.. I mean would you rather log on to gaydar/Gay.com/fridae (delete as appropriate) or change nappies, hold the baby's hand when its ill, take him/her to play school... 24/7 responsibilty.
I do know a stunning 6 foot dutch girl that was looking for a sperm donor.. she asked me a couple of years ago.

ziggystardust73 said...

there are lots of ways of fathering a child....

it all depends on what level you want to be involved in the child's life, however!

as cutectguy said - guess it depends on what you want from your life!

Gay banker said...

I can't imagine living day to day with the mother ziggy, but involvment at a lesser level (or not at all even) is potentially interesting to me. Do you have any suggestions?

GB x

Legend said...

Come here and we can take a swing at it!

Gay banker said...

Hmmmm legend, I'm being serious here you know. Anyway e-mail me if you've got any sensible suggestions.
GB x

The Pirate King said...

I'd suggest adoption as an option that involves maximum hassle right now, but truly tests your resolve to be a father before the baby arrives. It does mean, though, not getting to choose the name - or much, for that matter, but it's legal and you're not adding to the worldwide population crisis or engaging in morally dubious surrogacy or theft, I'd say.

Gay banker said...

I'm not sure about adoption, because the biological aspect is important to me. But it wpuld certainly test my resolve!
GB x

Anonymous said...

Jenny might be your perfect partner.

http://blogs.guardian.co.uk/observer/archives/2006/06/30/wanted_coparent.html

Anonymous said...

What about www.gaydargirls.com? You'd have to join, but a gay man offering sperm to those who want it could join. Otherwise you're looking for something like www.mannotincluded.com aren't you?

Gay banker said...

Thanks anonymous (#1), I spent ages reading the stuff about Jenny but I think she sounds like a bit of a fruitcake.

Thanks anonymous (#2), I'll may well follow up on both those ideas :-)

GB xxx

Laura said...

Most definitely, I agree with the above; a suitably intellectual lesbian would be the perfect person to be the mother of your child, surely?

For the person who suggested Gaydargirls then to be honest, I think that it is quite futile as they will ban you as soon as the site admins see that you are a man (albeit a gay one) offering his services.

Do you not have any lesbian friends in your friends network? if not, then ask around. I'm sure someone will be more than willing to take up your offer :)

Graham said...

I have seen advertisements in the Gay Times offering or asking for a sperm donor.

You need to think hard and long about what level of involvement you want as it is not right to swap and change your involvelment once the child is born.

PJ said...

no involvement at all is surely just the same as no child at all?

Sans Souci said...

Hello there! I would like to find out if your journey to becoming a father was successful? I live in Edinburgh and live with my boyfriend here. A friend of mine, that I've know for about 10 years, and I are going to have a baby together. She's gay but hasn't got a girlfriend at the moment but wants to be a mum, and I want to be a dad. I've also always wanted to father a mixed race child because genetically there is less likelihood for similar recessive genes to come into contact with each other - something that may appear in the phenotype as an abnormality. What's your news GB??!

GB said...

I never got anywhere with this Sans Souci :-(. I think about it almost daily though, although I've still no firm idea how to go about it. Good luck with your arrangement!

GB xxx

Anonymous said...

If you are still keen try the website prideangel. They have all sorts of configurations going on. You post your details and people check you out and respond if they like you. Plenty of professional lesbians willing to let you discuss the level of involvement.