Categories of 'Dear GB' emails

It's been three years since I posted my first "Dear GB" email and started trying to give advice to readers who asked for it. Since then I've done over 100 of those posts! At this stage, I think it would be useful to try and categorise all the postings that I've done, so as to make it easier for people who're seeking advice to search through the archives.

One popular category of email that I've posted relates to coming out. These emails are from guys who're not sure whether they're gay or not, or from guys who're having problems coming out:

Coming out

• 20-Jul-09 Email from a bicurious student
• 26-May-09 Email from a closeted Asian gay guy
• 19-Apr-09 Email from a Londoner curious about gay sex
• 14-Oct-08 Email from a bi-curious guy in his 20's
• 12-Aug-08 Email from a bisexual guy in love with another guy
• 21-Jun-08 Email from a British guy who's ethnically Indian
• 13-Jun-08 Email from a guy who's confused by gay culture
• 14-Jan-08 How does a closeted 25 year old gay virgin build a social life
• 24-Nov-07 Email from a gay guy who's not out yet
• 22-Jul-07 Is there a medication to stop people being gay?
• 25-May-07 Email from a gay chinese guy who feels he can't come out
• 18-Mar-07 An email from a young reader who's not sure if he's gay

The next category of email relates to guys who have come out, but who want advice dating or boyfriend hunting, or who just want to know how to meet other gay guys:

Dating, boyfriend hunting, or just wanting to make gay friends

• 29-Oct-09 Email from a young gay banker in Asia
• 26-Sep-09 Email from a young gay banker
• 18-Sep-09 Message from a guy who hasn't had much luck online
• 1-Sep-09 The cop out
• 14-Aug-09 Email from a young guy in love with another guy
• 12-Jul-09 Email from a gay student in the UK
• 18-Jun-09 Email from a gay guy who wants to 'find himself'
• 3-May-09 Email from a guy who wants to lose his virginity
• 5-Apr-09 Email from a guy who wants a boyfriend
• 29-Mar-09 Email from a gay guy who moved to London
• 27-Jan-09 The rules of playing 'hard to get'
• 10-Nov-08 Email from a gay guy wanting dating advice
• 21-Sep-08 Email from a guy with a dating dilemma
• 15-Jul-08 Email from a guy who used to be in a difficult relationship
• 1-Apr-08 Another email from the gay guy with the dating issue
• 5-Mar-08 Email from a gay guy with a dating issue
• 31-Dec-07 Email from a gay teenager
• 29-Oct-07 How do I meet other gay professionals in Asia?
• 11-Oct-07 Email from a guy with a potential boyfriend situation
• 25-Aug-07 Email from a gay guy who wants a relationship
• 28-Jul-07 Email from a guy with an ex-boyfriend situation
• 16-Jul-07 Do all gay relationships start with sex?
• 31-May-07 Email from a young guy looking for a boyfriend
• 18-Apr-07 An email from a Southeast Asian student in Scotland
• 18-Dec-06 An e-mail from a student

However, the biggest category concerns relationships themselves. These emails are from guys who're in a gay relationship where problems have arisen, or perhaps where the relationship is coming to an end or has recently ended:

Relationships

• 30-Sep-09 The philosophy of Butters Stotch
• 3-Aug-09 Another email from a guy in his first gay relationship
• 10-May-09 Email from a guy in his first gay relationship
• 26-Apr-09 Email from an Asian guy with a relationship dilemma
• 22-Mar-09 Email from a guy with a boyfriend and a 'personal trainer'
• 10-Mar-09 Difficult conversations
• 22-Feb-09 Love, the closet, and other boyfriend issues
• 12-Feb-09 Email from a guy with a long-term boyfriend
• 29-Dec-08 Email from a guy with relationship difficulties
• 17-Nov-08 Email from a guy with a relationship dilemma
• 28-Aug-08 Email from a broken-hearted gay guy
• 2-Aug-08 Are gay male relationships different from straight marriages?
• 2-Jul-08 Our distraught Mexican friend
• 21-Apr-08 Email from a guy with a mid-life boyfriend crisis
• 25-Feb-08 Email from a gay guy with long-term relationship issues
• 31-Jan-08 Pillow talk
• 6-Jan-08 Email from a successful gay guy with relationship problems
• 4-Nov-07 Email about gay marriage in the UK
• 23-Oct-07 Dear GB
• 11-Aug-07 An email about fidelity and bisexality
• 11-Jul-07 Email about handling hope in a long distance relationship
• 2-Jul-07 Email from a gay guy with relationship issues
• 22-Jun-07 Email from a guy in a difficult relationship
• 13-Jun-07 Email from a gay American guy with relationship problems
• 6-May-07 Email from a guy with a closeted boyfriend
• 24-Apr-07 Email from a young gay guy in a long distance relationship
• 25-Mar-07 An email from a young gay reader in a relationship
• 24-Dec-06 An email from a gay male student in San Francisco
• 5-Dec-06 An email from a gay guy in San Francisco
• 9-Nov-06 An email from a gay male reader

Sometimes the boundary between friendships and boyfriends becomes blurred. A few emails relate to gay guys who're not sure where to draw the boundary between friends, fuckbuddys, and boyfriends:

Friendships and relationships

• 12-Oct-09 Email from a guy with a couple of difficult friendships
• 10-Jun-09 Email from a guy with feelings for a male friend
• 12-Apr-09 Email from a guy with a crush on a guy with a boyfriend
• 14-Mar-09 Email from a distressed catholic schoolboy
• 5-May-08 Email from a guy who received a message on gaydar
• 19-Aug-07 Manipulative love or business friendship

Some emails concern sexual issues, or relate to sexual health:

Sexual issues

• 21-Oct-08 Email from a young guy with a concern about HIV
• 29-Apr-08 Email from a guy with a confidence problem
• 20-Mar-08 Am I too greedy in the sack?
• 11-Mar-08 An email about condoms, oral sex, and dick size!
• 22-Jul-07 More about condoms and erection problems
• 11-May-07 An email about condoms and erection problems

Another category relates to being gay at work:

Being gay at work

• 19-Oct-09 Email from an out gay guy who works for a bank
• 17-May-09 Email from a gay guy accused of sexually harassing a woman
• 16-Jan-09 Email from a gay guy about being Out in the workplace
• 9-Sep-08 Email from a gay guy about a guy in his office
• 23-Jul-08 Email from a gay American navy veteran
• 9-Apr-07 An email from a gay reader starting a career in investment banking
• 22-Feb-07 Conversational evasion techniques
• 16-Nov-06 An e-mail from fellow blogger cuteCTguy

Most advice requests that I get are from gay guys, or guys who think that they might be gay. However I've also had a few advice request from women. Women are very welcome to send me requests for advice :-). So far, these emails usually relate to the fact that a guy they know is gay, or might be gay:

Advice requests from women

• 4-Oct-09 Email from a woman with a bisexual ex-boyfriend
• 3-Feb-08 Email from a woman with a bisexual ex-boyfriend
• 20-Oct-07 Email from a female reader with a bisexual ex-boyfriend
• 10-Sep-07 An email from a female reader with boyfriend problems
• 5-Jul-07 Email from a young woman with boyfriend worries
• 3-Apr-07 An email from a young gay woman
• 30-Jan-07 An e-mail from a mother about her daughter's boyfriend
• 26-Nov-06 An email from a female reader
• 5-Nov-06 An email from a female reader: Is my boyfriend gay?

Readers are still very welcome to send me emails if they want me and other readers to try and give them advice :-). However, before sending me an advice request, it would be helpful if people could check to make sure that none of the existing postings address their problem.